In brief
- 80,000+ people follow me, 89.3% of them in Germany, Austria, and Switzerland, the age mass at 25–44, roughly three quarters women.
- My engagement concentrates on relationship mechanics; five posts alone hold 670 comments and 12,400 likes (Instagram totals).
- The people who write to me are on a healing journey: therapy-experienced, into self-care and nervous-system regulation, and open to trying my advice and reporting back.
- What they describe again and again: boundary collapse, on/off cycles, stress that shows up in the body, and money already spent on therapy and seminars.
1. Who I am
I'm a psychological counselor and relationship expert, publishing in German as @Termeh_psychologie (80,000+ followers). My focus: relationships, self-worth, attachment patterns, and increasingly nervous-system regulation. I've been an invited speaker on ZDF (Germany's second national broadcaster, on online dating) and contributed to Brigitte (leading women's magazine, on AI and intimacy). One prior brand collaboration, Sleep and Glow, on sleep and emotional regulation.
2. Who follows me
89.3% of my followers live in Germany, Austria, and Switzerland, and the 25–44 range holds 59.7% of my audience, roughly three quarters of it women. Each band below shows its women and men shares of all my followers; the country chart follows on the same scale.
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| Component | Value |
|---|---|
| 18–24 — Women | 10.2% |
| 18–24 — Men | 4.6% |
| 25–34 — Women | 24.8% |
| 25–34 — Men | 7.8% |
| 35–44 — Women | 21.4% |
| 35–44 — Men | 5.7% |
| 45–54 — Women | 11% |
| 45–54 — Men | 3.5% |
| 55+ — Women | 5.5% |
| 55+ — Men | 3.1% |
Source: Instagram Insights (Zielgruppe, 2026-07-23); band totals as published, women/men split measured from the Insights bar proportions
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| Label | Value |
|---|---|
| Germany | 63.8% |
| Austria | 14.6% |
| Switzerland | 10.9% |
| Netherlands | 3.8% |
| Denmark | 2.4% |
Source: Instagram Insights (Zielgruppe), captured 2026-07-23
My followers are most active on Sundays between 15 and 21 Uhr.
3. Inside my comment sections
My five most engaging posts, each linked:
- Likes as a respect question. The comment my audience lifted to the top: "Es geht nicht um Eifersucht. Es geht um Respekt."
- The masking-phase rule. My audience tests the "7 dates" rule on their own lives, half serious, half joking.
- Loving two people at once. A source-hungry audience repeatedly asks for the studies behind the "4-5%" claim.
- The 3-month crash. Timeline mapping and survivor reports ("Ich hab's überlebt. War sehr hart, aber heilend für beide").
- Age-gap dating. Personal testimony ("17 Jahre Unterschied. Beziehung fühlt sich immer noch gut an") and statistics pushback.
4. The people in my community
The people in my community are working on themselves, and most of them started long before they found me. Therapy is a normal part of their biography. So is the rest of it: self-care routines, nervous-system regulation, digital detox weekends, holistic approaches that treat body and mind as one system. When I give advice, it gets used. They try it on a date that same weekend, they set the boundary in the conversation they had been avoiding, and then they tell me how it went. Hundreds of direct messages reach me like this. Some are questions. Most read like updates to a friend, because that is what I am to many of them: a professional they trust, and a friend who happens to know attachment theory.
What they invest. My audience already pays for its own development. Therapy, seminars, courses, and books belong to the standard vocabulary of my threads, and a meaningful share of the substantive commenters, plausibly around a third (estimate), reports completed or ongoing professional help.
What they respond to. Concrete rules and timelines start my conversations; boundary and respect topics carry my biggest threads; scientific framing draws my most demanding readers. Sunday evening is my audience's window, and my threads keep collecting replies for months after publication.
The edges. A small male minority asks me the mirror-image questions about women. Pushback exists but stays civil and substantive; sarcasm concentrates on the lighter topics and rarely reaches the healing-adjacent threads.